As an attachment parenting mama and also as a Attachment Parenting International Leader (since 2007) I hear a lot of misconceptions about what exactly is attachment parenting. Before I get to that though, I wanted to start by covering what it is not.
- Attachment parenting is NOT permissive parenting. Being an attachment parenting mama does not mean that your kids can do whatever they want. Children are children and they don’t always do nor behave how we would like them to (I’ll be the first to say that loud and clear) but in attachment parenting there are boundaries and guidance.
- Attachment parenting is NOT being a martyr. I hear often mamas saying that even though it’s miserable for them they are going to be attachment parenting mamas because they think it’s best for baby. One aspect of attachment parenting is balance. There are realistic expectations in mothering – any parenting style. And attachment parenting has these as well but also it has balance.
- Finally, Attachment parenting is NOT a checklist. I don’t start out explaining that I practice attachment parenting by listing a list of what I do. It’s so much more than a list. In fact, it’s not even remotely about a list. And often times the principles of attachment parenting are confused with a checklist of what you must do to be an attachment parent.
So what is attachment parenting?
Attachment parenting is a style of parenting that forms a secure bond between parent and child by responding to your child’s emotional and physical needs.
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